Over the years I have learned a couple things. I've learned how to tie my shoes, learned how to do math in my head(still not very good at it), learned how to back out of a driveway using a mirror, and I've learned how to be a friend.
Some people grow up and never ever know how to be a true friend. There are different "Definitions" of a friend in the world. Some people think that a friend will tell you you look great in something when you clearly look horrible in it. Some think that a friend will help you take drugs, even bring them to you. Still others hold on to a friend that ratted them out when something wasn't even their fault.
Those are not definitions of friend.. That's loyalty. We feel loyal to those that we become "Friends" with, or maybe we feel loyal to them because they helped us out of a "sticky" situation and we're supposed to be their for them through everything!
The dictionary definition of a friend:
1. a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard.
2. a person who gives assistance; patron; supporter: friends of the Boston Symphony.
3. a person who is on good terms with another; a person who is not hostile
Friend is a noun but it takes a verb to be one!
Jesus was a friend, he showed us what a true friend is by Dying for us on a cross and taking our sins.
I've learned what a true friend is by reading and studying Jesus' life. He showed how to be a friend by telling people the truth. He wanted people to know the truth He didn't keep it from them. No matter how much it hurt someone or not matter how much it "offended" someone. Jesus didn't need to have the "title" of a friend to someone to care about them. Today for some reason we have to have titles. I'm your friend. I'm not your Friend. You're my best friend, girlfriend, or boyfriend. Doesn't mean that you love someone more or care for them more.
God called us to be friends to everyone! He didn't exactly single people out.
When I say that i'm friends with someone, it means I care about them unconditionally. It doesn't mean I hang out with them all the time. Thats' a highschool thought pattern. That we're friends because we hang out all the time. I don't agree with that, I never have.
I have friends all over the United States, Some of them I've never met face to face, However, I'm still their friend. I still want the best for them, I still pray for them and I still care about them. I don't need to live right down the street from someone to be friends with them. My best friends live 5 mins away, we don't hang out a lot and we don't really talk a lot but we know we love each other we know we're friends. We're friends because we "understand" that we're busy, we understand we have different lives. Would we like to hang out and talk more, of course! It's really just that simple we are friends because we are friends. It doesn't need to be renewed all the time or restated.
We place too much pressure on the people that we call friends. We expect them to be everything that we want them to be. When sometimes they can't be that. We want them to have all the answers for us. If we diddn't hold the people that we consider friends so high... we'd get frustrated with them less.
Being a friend means. You stand up for them when they are right. You're there for them no matter when. Forgive them for the little things that they've done to you. People make mistakes, why hold others more accountable, than you hold yourself?
Are YOU a good friend? IF not... why do you hold grudges on those who aren't either.
BTW:
A REAL friend will tell you that you do not look great in that outfit WHY? so that you go change and can look great just in case the guy that God wants you to marry.. SEES YOU!
Friends don't bring you to a party when your underage and make you drink? WHY? because they are supposed to care about you and your future and they'd want you to be able to be ALL you can be!
If a friend is LOW enough to blame something on you that they did. Well i can't really explain that any more!
Check yourself, before you wreck yourself.
Sunday, June 21, 2009
Sunday, June 14, 2009
beauty is in the eye of the status updater
Hi everybody!!
The other day there was a status update that really caught my eye...
it said:
"Detachment is what allows us to so easily not care for our neighbor and attachment allows us to understand and meet the needs of those around us."****
It started me thinking that the times i feel detached from people, whether it be close friends or just people in general, are times that i am detached from God.
When there is something in my life that i feel bad about i pull away from God and from others.
Often i can slowly pull away from others without much notice. That is unless it is someone that knows me all too well. Then they will ask what is going on... when that happens i can either still try to hide what is going on or share my burden with them.
The thing is if it is a burden that i have brought on myself by going against what i know in my heart to be right, then it is often harder to let others know. i can continue to hide it from others, even when asked... but i can't hide it from God.
i went through one of these times about 2 years ago and when i finally realized that i had to tell the person i had wronged it was almost unbearable. i knew that once i told them that i would be able to eat and sleep again. It would feel so good to get it out in the open, but i also knew that the person would be angry and hurt. My actions were completely hidden from them at this time, so they were going to be pretty much in shock. But my conscience wouldn't let me hide it anymore. It was slowly eating me up inside.
i bought a book by John Piper called "When You Don't Desire God." But i knew that if i read it that i would have to change things in my life and i wasn't ready to let go of things and do what i knew i needed to. i still wanted to try to handle things my own way and pushed God aside...
While dealing with all this i was working and trying my best to hide my distress from all around me.
i withdrew the best i could hoping it wasn't too noticeable.
But as i said there are those friends who know us and love us enough to ask.
We were on the playground and i was walking around trying to keep my mind off what i was going to have to do... i had already decided that i had to talk to the person i had wronged but was struggling with the how and when. i was so fearful that my life as i knew it would be over.
One of my friends looked at me and asked "Are you okay?"
Oh no! Someone noticed... my emotions started to overwhelm me... i knew i was about to lose it, but i just nodded my head yes anyway.
She said " oh Kim"... she said those two words with so much love in her voice that i couldn't stand it.
We lined up the kids and she followed me to my room.
We watched the kids play and when i was ready i explained what was going on.
She totally understood.. she had been through the same thing and as we talked i felt a weight lift.
She reassured me that things would be rough, but not as bad as i thought.
God had used a friend that i didn't work that closely with any more, but yet she knew me so well.
God strengthened me through talking with her. i finally had peace about what i had to do and actually slept that night!
This may seem odd to some but when i have to tell someone something very serious i can write it down easier than trying to speak to them audibly. i know that if i have to speak that i will be overtaken by emotion and never get through it. The last thing i want is for them to think i am looking for sympathy or trying to get them to "take it easy" on me.
God had been working in me to change.
Well, once everything was out in the open God really started to work on this person.
Yes they were angry but mostly hurt.
God worked everything out and things are better than ever.
Over the past 9 months or so God has sent some amazing people my way through myspace and facebook and i have had the blessing of speaking with some on the phone and being able to meet some of them in person. Others i still haven't spoken with personally or met them but it in no way diminishes the way God has used them to change my life.
God has used several of these people to teach me the importance of reaching out to others and have helped me to strengthen the relationships in my life. They have played a bigger role than they can ever imagine.
i am so thankful for all my friends that have been there for me over the years and for these new friends that He has brought into my life for such a time as this.
We are to love God and love our neighbor... we can't do this if we are detached from God.
The more we seek God and strengthen our attachment to Him... the more He can use us to show His love to others.
""Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God.
The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love.
By this the love of God is manifested in us, That God has sent His only begotten Son into the world so that we might live through Him." 1 John 4:7-9
i have heard before that we can either respond or react to God and others.
Responding is positive. Say you are sick and you are given medicine.....
If your body responds to the medicine then that is good.
If your body reacts to the medicine then that is bad.
We have to decide if we are going to respond to God and others or react to them.
God amazes me...may i never cease to be amazed!!
big hugs and high 5's!!
your friend,
:o)kimberly
*****Yes it was one of Isaac's. i haven't mentioned him in a blog in awhile.
When i found he was on facebook i thought "oh i don't need to post his blogs/thoughts because everyone can see it" ... well not all my friends on facebook are familiar with him so from time to time i'll be sharing some things from him.
i still think he is one of the most awesome people ever!
God has used him to make a huge impact on my life.
i am very blessed to call him my friend and my brother in Christ!
The other day there was a status update that really caught my eye...
it said:
"Detachment is what allows us to so easily not care for our neighbor and attachment allows us to understand and meet the needs of those around us."****
It started me thinking that the times i feel detached from people, whether it be close friends or just people in general, are times that i am detached from God.
When there is something in my life that i feel bad about i pull away from God and from others.
Often i can slowly pull away from others without much notice. That is unless it is someone that knows me all too well. Then they will ask what is going on... when that happens i can either still try to hide what is going on or share my burden with them.
The thing is if it is a burden that i have brought on myself by going against what i know in my heart to be right, then it is often harder to let others know. i can continue to hide it from others, even when asked... but i can't hide it from God.
i went through one of these times about 2 years ago and when i finally realized that i had to tell the person i had wronged it was almost unbearable. i knew that once i told them that i would be able to eat and sleep again. It would feel so good to get it out in the open, but i also knew that the person would be angry and hurt. My actions were completely hidden from them at this time, so they were going to be pretty much in shock. But my conscience wouldn't let me hide it anymore. It was slowly eating me up inside.
i bought a book by John Piper called "When You Don't Desire God." But i knew that if i read it that i would have to change things in my life and i wasn't ready to let go of things and do what i knew i needed to. i still wanted to try to handle things my own way and pushed God aside...
While dealing with all this i was working and trying my best to hide my distress from all around me.
i withdrew the best i could hoping it wasn't too noticeable.
But as i said there are those friends who know us and love us enough to ask.
We were on the playground and i was walking around trying to keep my mind off what i was going to have to do... i had already decided that i had to talk to the person i had wronged but was struggling with the how and when. i was so fearful that my life as i knew it would be over.
One of my friends looked at me and asked "Are you okay?"
Oh no! Someone noticed... my emotions started to overwhelm me... i knew i was about to lose it, but i just nodded my head yes anyway.
She said " oh Kim"... she said those two words with so much love in her voice that i couldn't stand it.
We lined up the kids and she followed me to my room.
We watched the kids play and when i was ready i explained what was going on.
She totally understood.. she had been through the same thing and as we talked i felt a weight lift.
She reassured me that things would be rough, but not as bad as i thought.
God had used a friend that i didn't work that closely with any more, but yet she knew me so well.
God strengthened me through talking with her. i finally had peace about what i had to do and actually slept that night!
This may seem odd to some but when i have to tell someone something very serious i can write it down easier than trying to speak to them audibly. i know that if i have to speak that i will be overtaken by emotion and never get through it. The last thing i want is for them to think i am looking for sympathy or trying to get them to "take it easy" on me.
God had been working in me to change.
Well, once everything was out in the open God really started to work on this person.
Yes they were angry but mostly hurt.
God worked everything out and things are better than ever.
Over the past 9 months or so God has sent some amazing people my way through myspace and facebook and i have had the blessing of speaking with some on the phone and being able to meet some of them in person. Others i still haven't spoken with personally or met them but it in no way diminishes the way God has used them to change my life.
God has used several of these people to teach me the importance of reaching out to others and have helped me to strengthen the relationships in my life. They have played a bigger role than they can ever imagine.
i am so thankful for all my friends that have been there for me over the years and for these new friends that He has brought into my life for such a time as this.
We are to love God and love our neighbor... we can't do this if we are detached from God.
The more we seek God and strengthen our attachment to Him... the more He can use us to show His love to others.
""Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God.
The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love.
By this the love of God is manifested in us, That God has sent His only begotten Son into the world so that we might live through Him." 1 John 4:7-9
i have heard before that we can either respond or react to God and others.
Responding is positive. Say you are sick and you are given medicine.....
If your body responds to the medicine then that is good.
If your body reacts to the medicine then that is bad.
We have to decide if we are going to respond to God and others or react to them.
God amazes me...may i never cease to be amazed!!
big hugs and high 5's!!
your friend,
:o)kimberly
*****Yes it was one of Isaac's. i haven't mentioned him in a blog in awhile.
When i found he was on facebook i thought "oh i don't need to post his blogs/thoughts because everyone can see it" ... well not all my friends on facebook are familiar with him so from time to time i'll be sharing some things from him.
i still think he is one of the most awesome people ever!
God has used him to make a huge impact on my life.
i am very blessed to call him my friend and my brother in Christ!
Saturday, June 13, 2009
Just a thought
There are some people that go around with a smile on ther face and being happy. But the truth is deep down there sad and lonley and don't know what to do with themselves because of how bad they feel inside. This could be a sign of depression. Depression is not a fun thing to deal with at all. The feelings that go on in your mind and the way you feel in your body is sometimes hard to explain because you don't know why you feel the way you do. The best thing to do is talk to someone when you feel this way. Also Pray that God takes the feelings away. Remeber that you are not alone and there are other people that feel the way that you may be feeling. Depresion can bring you down not onley mentaly but spirtualy. God can help you get through it. I know it can seem pretty lame giving everything over to God and trusting in him. But I know from experiance that it works. I been overcomming depresion a lil more every day. I put my trust in the Lord and ask for his guideness. When you do that he will help you. you still have to do your part and listen to what he has to say to you but he will help you. God loves you no matter what has happend in your life. you may of done something horribale and something your ashamed of but that doesn't matter all you have to do is pray for forgivness and God will meet you with open arms. God created you and me to love him and to be his children. God doesn't make people hate he makes them to love them. God can do so much in your life if you just trust him. he has done so much in my life he has blessed me with a wounderfull family that loves me with all there heart and he has blessed me with wounderfull friends that are there for me. We may never see God in person but if you look closeley you can see him in people. Look at a homeless person on the corner of the street and you can see God deep in his heart. Look in the eyes of a lil orphane child and you will see Gods love shining through. God is the creater of the world and God makes buitfull things to put in the world. So why wouldn't God want to help you overcome something that is hurtting you. God doesn't like seeing his children hurt.
Friday, June 12, 2009
prayer blog 2
Hi everybody!!
Recently i wrote a blog on prayer. My main purpose in that was to encourage people to pray often. Even if it was just lifting up a quick prayer for someone God lays on your heart. To realize that prayer doesn't have to be a long thing... just from the heart.
There is something else that i feel needs to be said..something that i failed to mention.
One on one communication with God is very important. Yes you can lift up a prayer no matter where you are as the noisy world is going on around you. You may be able to tune those things out... but there is still a chance for interruption.
i have a 30 minute drive to work and back home everyday. These are some of the most valuable times in prayer for me . i am the only one in the car and i can talk out loud if i want.
Yes God knows what we need even before we ask. Before it is even a thought in our brains... He knows!!
So then why do we pray? When God already knows our hopes, dreams, fears, needs, wants, etc... why do we go to Him?
Because prayer is not for God to know us better, but for us to know God better...
By voicing our hopes, dreams, fears, needs, etc.... we put our trust in Him.
We are acknowledging to ourselves that God is in ultimate control. We aren't giving Him control... He already has it! But we are willingly submitting to Him. All this is for our benefit so that we realize in our minds that He is sovereign.
When we pray we are communicating with God. He communicates with us everyday through the beauty of His creation.
In Romans 1:20 it says " For since the creation of the world His invisible attributes, His eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly seen, being understood through what has been made, so that we are without excuse."
When we pray we feel closer to God and we learn more about Him... His character, mercy, grace , and love. We learn these things as we put our trust in Him and then see how He moves in our lives. There are many times that i have looked back and seen God's hand in my life. As prayer has become more a part of my life i can often see God's hand in things as they are happening. i stand in amazement and awe of what he has been doing recently in my life and in the lives of some of my friends.
The more i have been faithful to communicate one on one with God the more i have been able to see what He is doing ... i am more aware of who He is. Prayer has definitely strengthened my relationship with God and draws me closer to an understanding of who He truly is.
So whether it is a quiet uninterrupted time or the chaos of the world is going on around me i can pray and know that He hears me, but i hear Him better when it is just God and me.
i would encourage everyone to write down some things that you are praying for and see how God works.When you go back and look at it later it will help you remember what you were going through at the time and let you see how God has worked in those situations.
"Rejoice always; pray without ceasing; in everything give thanks; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus" 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
God amazes me...may i never cease to be amazed!!
Big hugs and high 5's!
your friend,
:o)kimberly
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
Need bloogers
Do you have a message?
something that you think others would benefit from reading?
let me know.. go to the 7ish myspace, look around and if you feel lead to help out send us a message on the myspace
www.myspace.com/7ishproject
:)
Chris
something that you think others would benefit from reading?
let me know.. go to the 7ish myspace, look around and if you feel lead to help out send us a message on the myspace
www.myspace.com/7ishproject
:)
Chris
Saturday, June 6, 2009
people talk talk!
okay.. so... this blog is about people that don't know you yet talk about you like they do! So most of you know who I am because I run the Vinners Promo Fan Site for FF5. I mean it's not like I hide from it! lol. I started that site only because I was so excited to see the Olds brothers still doing music. there really was no other reason. I never thought it would get this big. There really wasn't any other FF5 sites promoting them, their music, solis' stuff, or their concerts so I stepped up and started promoting. I also search the internet for things that we can nominate them for to vote for and have them win! To make head way in the music industry and get them noticed.. I did that with the top rock thing nominated them and they won three things because of The Vinners! I have been fortunate enough to meet the guys and become pretty close to them. not like... BEST BEST BEST friends.. but lets just say, I got their backs... and they'd have mine if needed. The whole reason for The Vinners isn't to exploit them its' to help them. We're not just a "fan site" but I try to be as fan oriented as possible. The guys love the site and they appreciate what i've done.
I don't like being told negative things about me or my fan site. I am 28 it's more of a hobby for me and since i've been doing it for 2 years it's sort of 2nd nature to add friends when i'm watching one of my shows or answer messages back(which I do)
When you're friends with someone you want to see their dreams come true. I'm 20000% behind whatever they do. I've never claimed to be closer to them than i am. I don't appreciate going behind my back and talking about me to other fans.. Just so you guys know.. A lot of FF5's core fans.. I know! be careful who you talk too... I've been there for a lot of these girls and guys. I don't tell people their business.
If you've never talked to me you have no clue why I do what I do. Its' not just about FF5. It's about being there for you guys when you feel no one else is there! I've prayed with many a "fan" and talked them through things that have since been resolved.
I know who Christ has made me. I know the gifts I have. To let someone that i've never talked to get under my skin is an attack! It's direct from the Devil.. To make me try to second guess who God has made me. I'm a geniune person. When I like something I like it! I wear my emotions on my sleeve. It's who I am.
For someone to talk horrible about you and not know your story and for us to get so upset is so weird and funny to me! They know nothing about us yet their opinion of us means so much that we let it sink in and poison our thoughts about ourselves.. OR Gods' thought about ourselves. Thinking' they know you and you'll only waste your breath trying to tell them the truth. It's all so silly to me. But the bottom line is.. if they're telling you about yourself they are certainly telling others. And thats' what gets me!
I guess my point is... if someone is telling you something about someone else... that's negative no matter what it is.. Consider your source!!!!! Have they done it to you before? Are they the kind of person to make someone else look bad so they look better? DO they KNOW that person on a personal level? Or have they seen something online and taken off with it.
Guys... Myspace, facebook, twitter, blogger...etc accounts don't tell you what a person is TOTALLY and WHOLLY about!! So if you know that about yourself why would you assume that's what someone else is?!
The most important person in my life Is Jesus Christ. He has done way too much for me to hold something else higher than Him. If he told me to walk away from FF5.. I would. My close friends and family wouldn't doubt that for a minute. Believe me i've walked away from things before because it wasn't where God wanted me. But for this season, for right now.. i'm here for you guys. This is my stepping stone to the ministry that I've dreamed of for almost 8 years.
Love all of you
Chris
I don't like being told negative things about me or my fan site. I am 28 it's more of a hobby for me and since i've been doing it for 2 years it's sort of 2nd nature to add friends when i'm watching one of my shows or answer messages back(which I do)
When you're friends with someone you want to see their dreams come true. I'm 20000% behind whatever they do. I've never claimed to be closer to them than i am. I don't appreciate going behind my back and talking about me to other fans.. Just so you guys know.. A lot of FF5's core fans.. I know! be careful who you talk too... I've been there for a lot of these girls and guys. I don't tell people their business.
If you've never talked to me you have no clue why I do what I do. Its' not just about FF5. It's about being there for you guys when you feel no one else is there! I've prayed with many a "fan" and talked them through things that have since been resolved.
I know who Christ has made me. I know the gifts I have. To let someone that i've never talked to get under my skin is an attack! It's direct from the Devil.. To make me try to second guess who God has made me. I'm a geniune person. When I like something I like it! I wear my emotions on my sleeve. It's who I am.
For someone to talk horrible about you and not know your story and for us to get so upset is so weird and funny to me! They know nothing about us yet their opinion of us means so much that we let it sink in and poison our thoughts about ourselves.. OR Gods' thought about ourselves. Thinking' they know you and you'll only waste your breath trying to tell them the truth. It's all so silly to me. But the bottom line is.. if they're telling you about yourself they are certainly telling others. And thats' what gets me!
I guess my point is... if someone is telling you something about someone else... that's negative no matter what it is.. Consider your source!!!!! Have they done it to you before? Are they the kind of person to make someone else look bad so they look better? DO they KNOW that person on a personal level? Or have they seen something online and taken off with it.
Guys... Myspace, facebook, twitter, blogger...etc accounts don't tell you what a person is TOTALLY and WHOLLY about!! So if you know that about yourself why would you assume that's what someone else is?!
The most important person in my life Is Jesus Christ. He has done way too much for me to hold something else higher than Him. If he told me to walk away from FF5.. I would. My close friends and family wouldn't doubt that for a minute. Believe me i've walked away from things before because it wasn't where God wanted me. But for this season, for right now.. i'm here for you guys. This is my stepping stone to the ministry that I've dreamed of for almost 8 years.
Love all of you
Chris
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